Showing posts with label Randomness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Randomness. Show all posts

Monday, September 30, 2013

Therapist shopping


If I haven't posted about this before let me post about this now.  Yes you are best served by finding the right therapist for you, not just the first one listed in the Yellow Pages.  Also investigate the type of therapy they do.  There really are tons of therapeutic processes.  Yes I LOVE Rapid Resolution Therapy® and find it beneficial for my clients.  Doesn't mean that RRT is the best fit for you or that I'm the best fit for you!  So be an educated consumer of mental health care!!!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy®
573-754-0348
tara@taralpc.com
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Friday, July 26, 2013

Now offering

 A 45 minute face to face consultation.  These consultations are a way to get to meet and know Tara (myself) as well as determine if RRT is the most effective therapeutic way to resolve emotion issues that are troubling you.  As well as insure that RRT will be a worth while investment towards your emotional well being. 
An RRT session is a large investment and you must invest your money and time wisely.  Thus I have created these 45 minute face to face consultations.  These consultations are not for walk ins, they are scheduled a head of time and there is a small fee. 
I'm looking for any self investment you make to be a worthwhile one and am looking to find the best way to get you to where you want to be! 
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy®
573-754-0348
tara@mylifecoachtara.com
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Monday, July 15, 2013

Women & success


As I'm trolling the world wide web I find interesting articles sometimes.  Not always but sometimes.  Recently I came across this article- 19 Things That Mean 'Success' For Women  It reminded me of some recent conversations I've had with women entrepreneurs.  Most of them talking about how unsuccessful they were, how they had so much more to do and accomplish.  Most of these women when I looked at them I would describe as successful.  
This article just reminded me that what I define as successful is not the same as others.  My practice is not as busy as I'm looking for it to be.  I have a lot to learn about marketing a private practice when I do not take any insurance.  I'm learning to sort through the true experts on marketing and the self proclaimed experts.  My office manager and I aim to schedule clients who will most benefit from the work I do.  That to me is part of my definition of success.  Seeing clients and creating a transformative, healing experience for them.  
There are therapists/counselors who will see any and all clients.  But to assume that as a counselor you will have a positive impact on everyone that walks through your door is unrealistic.  Let's face it not everyone gets along with everyone.  The same goes for clients and counselors.  Not everyone is a good match.  And further more RRT is not always a good match for the issue someone may be dealing with.  That's why my office manager and I spend some time on the phone asking questions and getting to know potential clients so we can make a better professional assessment on whether or not RRT and myself are a good fit for said client.  
In doing so yes my practice is slower than what I'm looking for it to be.  However more clients are walking out of my door satisfied and making referrals.  That to me is a HUGE sign of success...when previous clients refer their family, friends, and co-workers.  
Give that article a read, meditate and ponder on what really defines success for you!!


Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy®
573-754-0348
tara@mylifecoachtara.com
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Monday, June 17, 2013

You can't know

I've been playing with the idea that you can't know what you don't already know and can't do something that you didn't think to do a lot in sessions lately.  And your like what are you talking about?
Well many of my clients come into sessions with me with this "I should of..." idea rolling around in their head.  Most of the time what "they should of" done didn't occur to them to do at that particular moment in time.  And most of those times what is now occurring to them to have done back then is something they learned later. 
However this came to play in real life in my life one night.  A friend was upset about a particular situation, that was happening right at that moment.  She has knowledge of the situation I do not.  She has experience and education in an area I do not.  (Trust me I'm NOT going back to school to learn what she knows and change careers.  She is an amazing expert in her field and it's her field to know not mine)  However I kind of got caught in the cross fire and got a lecture about the situation.  And amazingly enough it upset me a tad but not very much.  I instantly realized I can't know what I don't already know.  I'm not an expert in what she is an expert in, the situation involved some odd responses from someone that were new and well odd to me.  I don't have experiences in responding to those kinds of responses so how am I to know the perfect way to react?  I can't know that.  Can I learn from my friend and her expertise, yes.  Is getting mad at me for not knowing what I don't know going to magically make me an expert in that area...no.  Does it make me more of an expert on that topic to be mad at myself for not knowing what I don't know...no. 
Bottom line you can't know what you don't know, you can't do something you didn't think to do, nor can you do something you don't know how to do.  Like can you repair an airplane engine?  Likely no.  If I get mad at you for not being able to do that can you then magically be an airplane engine mechanic, no.  And if you get mad at yourself will you then magically be an airplane engine mechanic...no.  So you just can't know...everything.  Neither can I.

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy®
573-754-0348
tara@mylifecoachtara.com
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Monday, June 3, 2013

Girl Talk

I know I've posted before about Jane Doe Advocacy Center here in St. Louis, MO.  They provide legal services for survivors of sexual and domestic violence and I happen to be one of their volunteers and biggest fans.  Well they've embarked on a new and amazing adventure;

It is a forum/blog provided by Jane Doe for girls, young women, etc to write in with their legal questions and concerns about sexual violence.  Questions are answered by lawyers and licensed mental health professionals.  It is confidential.  The actual link to janedoegirltalk is of course right there!  So go over, check them out, and get the word out!!

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy®
573-754-0348
tara@mylifecoachtara.com
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Monday, May 20, 2013

DEADLINES

Someone recently sent me a link to a very useful diagram mapping out how to better meet your deadlines and reduce your stress over those deadlines.  Now it may have been more helpful if I had gotten around to reviewing it before summer break for school, but I didn't- lucky me my life was busy at the time.  (Or unlucky me which ever)
Anyways  it's called MEET THAT DEADLINE review it, hover over any icon and it has even more information, there's a ton of great sources noted at the bottom.  It's from MBAonline.  Hope you find it as interesting and helpful as I have!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy®
573-754-0348
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Monday, May 13, 2013

Glad to help

So I am a fairly new member of the Women's Power Networking.  I have been taking the opportunity to share this blog on the WPN national website.  Amazingly someone actually was reading my blog posts there and researched RRT and then found a RRT therapist in her area and noted that it was as amazing as I had wrote about and had been very helpful to her.  I am so very honored that my little blog posts have helped someone I don't even know get some healing and positive transformation in her life!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy®
573-754-0348
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Monday, April 22, 2013

Be a force of change

I've been blogging all month about Sexual Assault Awareness Month.  In this month have you asked yourself what you can do to make a difference?  It's pretty simple if your in the St. Louis area, or surrounding areas you can just go bowling.  Yep it's that easy.  On Sunday April 28, 2013 Jane Doe Advocacy Center is having a fundraiser Strike Out Sexual Violence.  Get a team of 6- family, adults only, or even kids only.  Bowl for 2 hours and then enjoy the pizza party after.  From 4-8pm.  More details are in the links provided.
I'll be there.  Come have fun, if you have any questions about Jane Doe or RRT we'll be there to answer your questions!!  There's still time to sign up!!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy®
573-754-0348
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Monday, March 18, 2013

Rejuvenation

I'm back.  Didn't realize I was gone huh?  I was.  I took a week off and attended a training, well 2 trainings actually that took up about three days.  The rest of the time I was relaxing and re-connecting with some friends in the business. 
Where did I go?  I attended the Heal the Healer Retreat in Ft. Walton Beach FL.  Now don't get too excited...it was windy and chilly in FL so I didn't hang out on the beach and soak up the sun.  I did however sleep well, laugh often, and enjoy lots of quiet time which gave me space to read. 
In other words I'm back, feeling better, and excited about the sessions I have on the book for this month!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy®
573-754-0348
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Monday, February 18, 2013

Uninspired

Yes I'm in a writer's block phase right now.  I haven't forgotten any one just uninspired to write blog posts, make videos for my blog, or write anything else.  It will pass.  I have learned time and time again when I try to force something it only becomes more problematic.  So just so you know I'm just riding this wave of writer's block till I get some inspiration...
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy® Pin It

Thursday, January 31, 2013

I'm late

Well I am very late on posting this week.  Mainly because I have been plagued with migraines.  We all have something right?  I have migraines, they have moved in for a long vacation this week I think...but enough about my migraines.
Overall January has just been a slow month, it always seems to be a slow month anyways.  Not fully sure why.  It just is what it is.
So for this week I'm just going to leave you with this-


Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy® Pin It

Monday, December 24, 2012

Happy Holidays!  Here's a blog post and newsletter article I did for the Raid Resolution Therapy®...just click here.
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy® Pin It

Monday, December 17, 2012

Books


I'm regularly asked about where to find a book specifically on Rapid Resolution Therapy®.  This book is not yet available buuuuutt we have a few Certified Practitioners who have written books...so here they are with links to them...

Angel Walk: Nurses at War in Iraq and Afghanistan By- Dr. Sharon Richie-Melvan & Dr. Diane Vines

Transforming Traumatic Grief: Six steps to move from Grief to Peace after the sudden or violent death of a loved one By- Courtney Armstrong, LPC

Helping Hoarders: A Guide for Families, Counselors, and First Responders By- Mark H Chidley, LMHC

Mini-Missions: Simplify and add Joy to Your Life in Less than 30 Minutes By- Autumn P. Hahn


Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy® Pin It

Monday, December 3, 2012

I wish you enough

 
"I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.

I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye."

She then began to cry and walked away.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person. An hour to appreciate them. A day to love them. And an entire life to forget them.

- Author Unknown
 
(Found this on Facebook, wanted to share)

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy® Pin It

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Be water

One of my very favorite books is the Tao Te Ching by Lao-Tzu. (there are many adaptions of this book, this link is to one of them, and just for reference purposes)  Part of what has stuck in my head from reading it and many stories around/about the Tao Te Ching is simply to go with the flow.  Like water, water seeks the path of least resistance.  It is an amazingly powerful force though that has created the Grand Canyons and destroyed island with terrible tsunamis. 

Most things in our life are outside of our control.  Water has no control over things, but is effected by it's environment and atmospheric conditions.  As it responds to the environment and atmospheric conditions it then begins to impact our world.  Many things can effect us and thus effect how our mind emotionally responds to our environment.  (please excuse my grammar if I have incorrectly used affect/effect I even looked it up but am still totally confused!)  Yet many of those emotions, especially the painful ones, can hinder us and sometimes make us feel as though we are stuck. 

Emotions are just emotions.  They are designed by our subconscious mind to motivate us to make something stop from happening in our world.  Like my post from last week most things aren't happening now...they have already occurred or have yet to occur.  Which then absolutely guarantees we can't do anything about it.  Unless you have a time machine, then maybe but let's discuss it before you zap off into another time frame of your life...from all the sci-fi I have watched doing so can cause major problems! 

Since painful emotions tend to be so problematic how about we aim to be more like water?  Go with the flow, and have a quiet, calming effect on our environment?  Sounds like a much better plan to me...I think Bruce Lee knew what he was talking about!

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy® Pin It

Monday, October 1, 2012

Flip of the coin


Recently I had the great fortune to work with a young woman from Europe (thankfully she spoke English very well) who was visiting family here in the USA.  Because of her limited time here we did like a two day marathon session to clear any and all traumas possible.
Anyways...this post isn't actually about her it's about some small piece of something we talked about.  So let me get to my point then...
As we go through life people are likely to tell us their opinions about us.  These opinions may come from family, teachers, fellow students, friends, employers, etc.  Sometimes those comments are positive and uplifting.  Sometimes they are not.  For example you could be told by your step-dad that you are stubborn, out of control, and disrespectful.  Well that's one way to see that person.  I see someone who is determined, independent, and strong.
People's opinions of us are just that- THEIR opinion of us.  And their opinion is based upon their own life and their own baggage.
But there's always the flip side to anything.  Where one person sees a "bi#*h" someone else might see an assertive woman. 
If you have someone else's unhelpful opinion of you rattling around in your head, that tape recording can be recorded over with something new and uplifting.  So why not just give me a call and let's get to re-recording?
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy® Pin It

Monday, September 10, 2012

Sexual Assault in the Military

Recently I came across a magazine article and documentary currently out in select theaters now.

The documentary is called the The Invisible War. It investigates the subject of our female soldiers and sexual assault within the armed forces. The article I came across and read is from Forbes Magazine, the topic is also sexual assault in the military, Sexual Assault in the Military: Petition Pleads for Offender Registry. I learned a few things in accordance to the magazine article and the documentary.

Like did you know that for women serving in the armed forces the rate of sexual violence is not 1 in 4, but 1 in 2? Did you also know that the soldiers who are convicted of sexual violence serve less time than if they had been convicted of using/abusing drugs while serving our country? And lastly did you know that once convicted of sexual assault they are likely not placed on a sex offender registry with in the military and when they are done serving our country that conviction may not follow them into civilian life? Yeah, neither did I! 

Yes learning about this ignites some frustration within me. It also ignites within me the drive to get the word out to our returning soldiers that there is hope. Rapid Resolution Therapy can resolve their trauma, quickly, effectively, and painlessly.  What broke my heart the most was hearing statements from survivors about how their lives had been so drastically changed after being raped, how they will always be haunted by this situation, and seeing how some women walk around on a daily basis with knives to help them feel safe.  

I may not be able to get the military to change their policies and views on sexual assault, but I sure can rapidly and painlessly clear survivors of sexual violence. I also know there are 200-plus other Certified Rapid Resolution Therapists who can do the same, so let's make sure that our soldiers know we are out there and available to help!

Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy® Pin It

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Insurance vs Out of pocket

It's been a few years since I have been a provider for any insurance company and I will continue to run my practice free of insurance.  This tends to turn some clients away and freaks some therapists out.

Taking insurance can increase the amount of clients one sees but it also limits what therapeutic modalities you can use and bill for, limits how long your sessions can be, and how often you can see your clients.  Then add on you will HAVE to provide, at minimum, a diagnosis for the client.  At minimum.  Some insurance companies require that the client periodically, like every other session, to complete a questionnaire that the therapist then fax's into the insurance company.  Depending upon how the client completed it and what happened to them between sessions a phone call between the insurance company and the therapist may be required.  During that phone call the insurance company may want even more or your personal information.  (I had this happen many years ago.  In between sessions something happened that really upset my client, he handled it and when he came back in he was fine, but in completing the form he was honest about how he HAD been and the insurance tried to convince me to hospitalize him despite the crisis was a week done and over with.) 

I also don't take any Employee Assisted Programs.  Sometimes for some EAP companies the sessions were very confidential just between myself and the client.  Other times, especially if it had been a company referral the EAP company (who is contracted by your employer and not actually a direct part of the company you work for) they want all kinds of information and will directly demand what your therapists does and how they do it.  Sometimes an EAP company would make a referral, the client would be approved for 2 sessions in which the client would tell all their emotional stuff and then I had to refer them on to ANOTHER therapist for counseling.  Really?  They open up to me and I'm not allowed to help fix what's bothering them, someone else has too?  So then they have to go open up to yet ANOTHER therapist?? 

Insurance companies and EAP require a "treatment plan" to be created by the therapist and client which is supposed to take 1-2 sessions to create before the work can be done.  So you are now 2 sessions, 2 co-payments, and twice you've had to drive to see your therapist before they can even begin the work you are paying them for.  Yeah my dentist doesn't do that, I go in, my teeth get cleaned, if they find a problem we set up another appointment to fix it and usually by appointment #2 I'm done, and it's not co-payment after co-payment.

Let's map this out with insurance/EAP.  Let's say your co-payment is $35.  So $70 is just to set up the treatment plan, you and the therapist haven't even had a chance to start fixing the problem at hand.  Now most counseling takes 6-9 months once a week or maybe once every 2 weeks.  So that's $70 a month (let's shoot for the every other week) for 6-9 months.  So you will be with your therapist for about 50 minutes but you also need to account in the drive to and from their office every other week.  Most therapists out there are not trained in RRT, so likely your having cognitive behavioral therapy sessions.  Since I used to do CBT and not am an exclusive RRT therapist CBT looks like a band-aid put onto a gaping wound that really needs stitches done by an expert plastic surgeon so like you will know you have a wound there but you and no one else can see the after effects of that cut any more.  (Yeah I and that expert plastic surgeon when it comes to clearing trauma!  No I have no idea how to do breast implants of nose jobs!! LOL)  Also you will have to continue to live with the emotional distress of what's bothering through out that 6-9 months of sessions, with the possibility of those painful emotions getting worse before they get better.

Financially that works out to (JUST CO-PAYMENTS not gas prices here) $420 for 6 months, $490 for 7 months, $560 for 8 months, and $630 for 9 months.  Oh and add in the extra time to get to and from those appointments every other week, emotional self may get worse before better...When you take your car in to the mechanic does it take 6-9 months every other week to get the problem fixed and your car running smoothly?  If you have an experienced, educated, honest mechanic no it does not.

When my clients come to see me usually we've already started creating the solution to the problem before they even see me face to face.  My office manager (Delores) has usually spoken to them to assess if RRT will be beneficial for them and then given me a synopsis of what's been going on so that then when they see me face to face I have already started to see where I'm going with the session.  We then review a few things, quickly agree upon where we're going and then get there all in one session.  Yes ONE session that is scheduled for 3 hours gives us enough time to clear one amazing thing.
Now the mind is an amazingly powerful thing so maybe a client had been raped when they were 16, had a horrific car accident at 21.  We may get one trauma done and cleared and the other in another session that will be scheduled for 3 hours also but likely won't take the full three hours...But that's 2 sessions, not 6-9 months. 

Yes I work way outside the box of normal therapy.  How ever people walk out feeling relieved, lighter, and grateful for trying something different.  How do I know this?  Because my office manager and I follow up with my clients and because they refer their family and friends.  That's MY biggest referral source; word of mouth.

Now it's your turn...do the math.  1-3 sessions or 6-9 months of sessions?
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy® Pin It

Monday, August 20, 2012

Case consultation & RRT supervision

As more and more clinicians become Certified in Rapid Resolution Therapy® I'm receiving more and more requests for case consultation and "RRT supervision."  I'm excited to share my knowledge and excited to help others improve their skills and heal their clients.  It is however staring to take up more and more of my time.
After thinking long and hard about this (yes smoke did come out of my ears many times through out this process) I have decided to begin offering this service for a small fee.  This fee may be per consultation or if one feels it would be a better idea to just pay for a "month's" worth of consulting/supervision we can set a monthly fee as well.
Enough about work and fees...the summers almost over, go out and enjoy the beautiful weather!  And remember if you or anyone you know has been dealing with anxiety, grief, guilt, PTSD, panic attacks, or nightmares Rapid Resolution Therapy® can help.
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Senior Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy®   Pin It

Monday, August 13, 2012

Through the wormhole

 Being Certified in Rapid Resolution Therapy I have a vested interest in how the human mind works.  In my sessions I do a lot of education about our complex human mind including the conscious mind and subconscious mind.  Recently my husband has started watching the series Through the Wormhole.  And just the other day he came across an episode "Through the Wormhole: Mysteries of the Subconscious Mind." 
I found it very interesting and many parts of it deepened my love and belief in RRT, so I thought I would share it with you as well...
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™ Pin It