All that guilt

Do you know where they keep the guilty buffalos? No where! There are NO guilty buffalos. Yes, we humans, are the only animals that feel guilt...OK honestly we live in guilt. Guess what?! Guilt is a totally less than useless emotion. Don't believe me? How guilty would you want a surgeon to be who about to do surgery on a loved one? But wait you didn't ask what the surgeon did. Alright how guilty do you want your hairstylist to be when she's cutting your hair? Or how would you like to get a massage from someone who's atoning for something they did? I have no desire to have a guilty surgeon, hairstylist or have a massage therapist, working on atonement, try to get the kinks out of my back. Guilt hinders people in so many ways. So many people carry around so much guilt. Guilt was designed to make people behave better in a time that no longer exists.
How often have you experienced or seen someone parenting through guilt? How often have you experienced teachers teaching through guilt. I can not even count the amount of times a client has come in about say depression or anger and what's really deep down in there is guilt. Guilt that was started from a very early age. And that guilt just builds and deepens. We guilt ourselves about things that have happened. In fact recently I had breakfast with a friend who was telling me about all this guilt she was experiencing in regards to a normal human experience. She was opening up and apologizing to several people, for her normalcy, and telling them how guilty and sorry she was, for being human. And some of them in turn were giving her more reasons to feel guilty. I asked her, as she protested "Please don't do your counselor thing on me," Where do we keep the guilty buffalos? It was truly difficult for me to watch my dear friend feel so terribly guilty for being a normal human. She hadn't harmed anyone or anything. She just had a feeling that she believes is not acceptable and thus there was that guilt.
Here's another reason I love doing Rapid Resolution Therapy, I clean up guilt, for clients, in a matter of minutes. It's an emotion that is not helpful. So why keep it? Funny thing is some people think they deserve to feel this way. Heaven help me if I have to have surgery done by a surgeon who's feeling guilty!!!
Guilt naws away at people even when their not trying to think about it. It works on you while your sleeping, working, playing, eating, and breathing. Without it though there's a clarity and understanding, shall I say enlightenment, that gives you the freedom to live a healthier more joyful life. Wouldn't the holiday season be brighter with more Joy?
Be well, Be happy-Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC

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