Happy Valentine's Day to my adorable hubby

This morning I was inspired by an old high school friend's blog post to post about my adorable hubby. Most people are shocked and amazed to hear we actually met on Yahoo Personals. Yes we are an internet relationship. No he wasn't in jail when I met him. Let me get to the start of this story...
My sister and I were both single. She had joined several on-line dating services. I was in a very bitter, I hate men phase. She was not. She met, on-line, this doctor that was in my area who was also closer to my age than hers. (My sis is several years older than I am.) She insisted that I join Yahoo Personals so I could met this guy and date him. So I did. I had some friends help me create my profile and upload pictures. Given I was pretty bitter that' how my profile read. I was very honest actually. About what I did for a living, what my lifestyle was like, and what I was looking for. In fact at some point I had made a list of attributes the man in my life had to have, there was 20 things on that list. The items contained physical attributes, income, housing, education, etc.
While on Yahoo Personals I went on a few dates. Did not hit it off, on line, with the doctor that my sister tried to hook me up with. I went out with a computer guy, once, who turned out to be a very angry, and mildly crazy in a bad way kind of guy. Went out with scientist who studied germs. We had nothing in common. There was the lawyer who I met for drinks, he was a jerk in a nice suit. And he was terrible at psychoanalyzing people, it's hard to psychoanalyze someone who's trained to do that for a living. And then one day I received a note from a chiropractor/yoga instructor who was also on Yahoo. It took me 2 days to respond to him. I was in shock so to speak. When I finally did respond we e-mailed back and forth for like 2 months. Not just fluffy e-mails, hard core, grilling 20 questions came with each e-mail. He lived in a very small town an hour north of me. One weekend I knew he was out of town a friend of mine and I went up there to check it out. People in the small, artsy fartsy town kept looking at us and we felt awkward.
During this time I was in the process of buying my condo. When it did finalize my sister came up and helped me move in. Our first Friday night in my condo we were bored. I knew that this guy, Eric, that I had been e-mailing went to some hole in the wall karaoke bar every Friday night. Eric & I had spoken briefly on the phone a few times so I called him and asked if we could meet him up there. He agreed. When I got there the bar was REALLY a dump! I mean a REAL DUMP. And he didn't look much like his pic. (The pic was from like college, and college was many years ago.) I was nervous and my sister hit it off with his friend.
Here's the crazy, only in movies thing that happened. As we were chatting I touched his leg and got an instant flash of our future. This was the guy I would marry and have kids with. Now it took me two weeks to feel comfortable enough to tell him this. It took him MONTHS to realize it was true. We instantly fell into that "old married couple" type of relationship. My friends we're very comfortable around him My family loves him more than they love me. (Yes I know I put loves versus loved, because that statement still stands true today...)
A few months after we met we got engaged. Nothing to exciting and romantic. I picked out my ring. He came by for the weekend, adjusted my neck, asked me to marry him, and then we went grocery shopping. Told you we were an "old married couple" before we even got married.
As for our wedding, we got married at a Sandles Resort in Ochos Rios, Jamaica. Not on the beach but close to it. We went on a sunset cruise, on a canopy tour; which scared the crap out of me, did LOTS of snorkeling and drinking. And a few years later had our precious daughter who is a total blend of each of us. Some kids I know look and act JUST like one parent, not our Ella. She looks mostly like Eric, but makes facial expressions like me, is independent like me, but way more social than I am. Which is definitely more Eric. We have a low key great life with family, friends, and a few furry pets.
So today: Happy Valentine's Day my dear Eric!! May we have many many more!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC




PS Of the 20 things on my list, I got 19. The one thing I didn't get was a hubby with a great butt. My husband has NO butt. He promises me, though, when I'm making a good income he'll get butt implants!

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