Anger is, in my opinion, not a helpful emotion. I used to take a martial arts class, where I was actually taught how to effective defend myself against men much larger than I am, and not once was I told to get mad and then defend myself. In fact it was more about staying in the present moment and watching to see what my opponent was going to do next.
If there is a bomb set to go off in a school full of children how angry do we want the bomb squad guy to be? And the negotiator talking to the guy holding several people hostage in the bank, how mad do we want him to be? The answer is not at all for either of them. I have not been able to come up with a single episode or time that anger would be helpful to any human on this planet.
Why you ask? Anger is designed to make us move forward and bite someone, something in an effort to protect ourselves or our loved ones...yet in our society where is this ever helpful? I've had several clients try to explain to me that anger was helpful to them because it gives them power and gets them respect. Now think of the most angry person you know that you have to deal with in any way (work, family, etc) how much respect for them do you have? How smart do angry people seem to be? Not smart at all. In fact in terms of our society people with all that anger tend to come off as being more dumb than smart. There's a reason for this, with anger the mind turns up it's fight reaction and turns down it's logical mind. There is a smart person in there under all that anger!
So if you or someone you know is being guided by anger Rapid Resolution Therapy® can help!
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™
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