How?

On a fairly regular basis I am asked how I do what I do?  In other words how can I handle listening to other people's problems and the traumas they have survived?  And I'm asked this by client as they talk about their concerns...
Well for one I have the ability to understand how it has been for them and not put myself into their shoes thus I stay present for them to get them free and clear.  But today I was reminded of the heart of how, or more like why I do what I do.
Today I met a young woman, just in middle school who was molested a few years back by a stranger.  She makes excellent grades, has a perfect attendance, goes to church regularly, is beautiful inside and out, she lights up a room when she smiles and laughs yet she has become more and more withdrawn.  She has distanced herself from her family, she had experimented with cutting, bulimia, and admitted to being fueled by anger, guilt, and sadness.  For reasons beyond her control or mine her first session had to be short and sweet.  I was able to clear the guilt and shame she's had for several years about being the survivor of a sexual assault.  She was smiling and laughing and told her Mom we talked about animals but that she was feeling better.  (yes we talked about animals but there was a reason that we did!)
No, I admit, in the short short time we had for our first session I didn't get a chance to clear everything, but she was willing to come back next week so I can finish what I started.
So that's why I do what I do, so I can give a chance to a young woman to go through life feeling good about herself.  So she can NOT be haunted by her past.  So she can move forward with her head held high and her inner light shining brightly.  And that why leads me to be able to complete the "How do I do what I do!"
Be well, Be happy-
Tara S. Dickherber, LPC
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapy® therapist
Executive Director of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence™

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